I was with someone who I have known for almost 20 years we met when we were young she was 15 I was 18….

Asked by brokenhearted,

I was with someone who I have known for almost 20 years we met when we were young she was 15 I was 18. we have dated off and on over the years and this last time she finally came back into my life I thought it was for good, we also have a daughter together who is 13 now. In the past few years that we had been back together were kinda rough ” extremly long story” … I know it strongly in my heart that we are meant to be but things had happen that she had asked me to leave and this was last october 07 and I am still hurting I cant get over her and I don’t know what to do… any suggestions?

Dear Brokenhearted,

Walking away from someone you love especially after all the years and a child together is definitely a hard task. To be fair to yourself i’d give this relationship one more chance and then respect her wishes. This way at least you have the answers to your questions. You can then either patch things up with each other, or close that chapter and remain a good involved parent and love her as the parent of your child.

If you don’t try this one more time, you are going to spend your life with the “what if’s” . Life is too short to worry and wonder about what could have been. If she shows no interest then end that situation with grace. Tell her you love her and hope you will be great parents together and maybe one day you can manage a friendship. Show her that you can be mature and respectful and she will behave however she chooses. At least you will have behaved like an adult. This way you won’t ever wonder if you had done things differently how this would have turned out.

You are going to be alright. Just be strong and tell her how you feel and understand she may be over this relationship or she may have all the same feelings you have. Don’t make empty promises to get her back. To show her you are serious make the changes she asks for if she gives you the chance. But don’t do this half ass or you may end back up where you are now.

Kisses,

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