Asked by S,
“Well my problem is that xxx is now my ex boyfriend but he still comes around and we act the same as if we were together. we were only dating for 1 month but i have known him for years. well he had a girlfriend for 3 months when he started talkin to me but i didn’t know any thing about it.
i broke up with him and now he is tellin me that he don’t want to be with her..n that he wants me and that he loves me. n everything eles. but yet he is always on the phone with her and she is always callin my phone to see if i still am with him. which im not but yet we still act like it.. n i really do like him a lot. n he still refers to me as his girlfriend to all my friends in the apartments. and he got mad at me when another dude was trying to talk to me. but yet he still talks to his ex gurl all the time even around me. i’m confused on what to do. does he want to be with me or not. do i need to leave him alone?? but besides all the drama. His ex gf doesnt date him no more they are just on the phone a lot and he is always spending the night at my house or is always there during the day and night. and she calls my phone for only to see if me n xxx are together. dont understand that part either. because she doesnt date xxx anymore. im confused..”
Dear S,
I don’t envy your dilemma but the one thing I preach to all those I care about is self respect. The fact is xxx is not treating you with respect either as a friend or as a girlfriend/boyfriend. Sounds like his ex girl and you are in the middle of xxx’s confused world. Also, it seems to me like he is getting his cake and eating it too.
I would like to think that xxx is not intentionally causing all of this mess. I guess I tend to hope for the positive in people. That being said…you had a friendship before the romance and it may take some time to get back to that after the hurt feelings (yours and his).
In short you need to move on from xxx. There really is someone out there that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Kisses,
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