Dating a stripper

Dear B,

ASK HER OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You wrote ” Okay, see I met this girl in a strip club awhile back and when I stop goin to that club I went to another one like last week & seen her up there. So we talked and exchanged numbers. I went back 2 days ago and seen her again but when she was on stage I didn’t tip her the first time but I tipped her the other couple of times. The reason why I didn’t tip her the first time cause I didn’t want to feel like I was her customer cause we both like each other. And every time she gets of stage she cums and kicks it wit me most of the night. No lap dances or nothin we just talk and laugh.
So what I’m askin’ you is, Am I a customer to her or is she considering me as something else?”

You said yourself that she likes you and that you exchanged numbers.  If she exchanged phone numbers with you and continues to talk to you those are definite signs that you should ask her out. You can ask her to go get something to eat after work at a diner.

I’d also like to throw in that you shouldn’t fuck her on the first couple dates. You don’t want her to think that you are just a guy who wants to fuck a stripper.  At least try not to. If she is pushing for sex that is cool. Try explaining that you want to fuck her but don’t want her to think that is all you want.  Tell her that you think she is a really cool girl and you are just taking your time and yes you want to fuck but it does not have to be the first night you two go out in public with her wearing all of her clothes.

My question back to you is if you both hit it off and start dating are you cool with her being a stripper? Can you handle  knowing there are guys drooling all over her while she is at work? If you can honestly answer that you are confident knowing your jealousy won’t get in the way and make for drama then go for it.  Keep in mind that it goes both ways. You met her in a strip club so her insecurities may be with all other strippers being a threat to her.  She could end up having random insecure thoughts every time you talk to another stripper.

If you  do start dating her and things are going well these are conversations that you should have up front. Having them after you fall for each other is a bit too late.  This way the conversations are rational and not dramatic emotions that you see on Jerry Springer.

I personally think you need to go for it. You live once and will kick yourself later for not taking a chance.  Granted she could turn you down or be afraid to try dating you based on what other girls in the biz may have experienced. One thing you both have going for you is that you know what she does for a living so she doesn’t have to hide anything.

I’d love to hear how it goes with her

Kisses,

Ask Naughty Nikki