Communication is key to a great blow job!

My name is M.  and I have been with my girlfriend for about 3 years now, we have a healthy relationship, and she is able to make me cum, but I find that often I feel unsatisfied, when I was a bit younger, and single… I would get a lot of blow jobs, from a few girls, and afterwords I would feel happy and pleased, but they would give me the impression that they were “experts” so to speak and probably were actually slightly better, I have tried to explain how I feel in a nice way, without knocking her confidence, but things haven’t improved, I think it could be me not being pleased mentally? I am very happy with her in every other way, Please could you help, and give me some ways to improve the relationship

Dear M.,

This is not as difficult as you might think.  I’m not sure how vocal you are but if you exert your feelings while she is giving you head you may find it easier to reach that happy place.  Tell her when she is going down on you to suck harder, suck lighter, use her hand more or less. Guide her to become your ultimate blow job giving girlfriend. You can train any partner to become the best partner. You just need to be patient and put some effort into your future orgasms.

If she is doing something that feels amazing tell her. If she is doing something that is blowing the blow job tell her what you need.  Honestly your key to better blow jobs is communication. I’m not talking about a full on conversation but a few words, moans, and grunts to show your appreciation.  Don’t I repeat don’t tell her that you do not like the way she gives head.  Not all girls have been blessed with a patient guy to teach them. Those girls that you refer to as ‘experts’ were not born that way.  Those girls had to practice and learn just like any other girl.

When you masturbate you know what feels good to you. Teach her to move her hands in the same way you do while her wet mouth glides up and down your shaft with her hand.  From there teach her what pressure to suck at. Do you like your whole dick in her mouth? or just the head? Some guys are extremely sensitive so just the tip with some tongue action and hand motion can make them cum immediately.

I was trained many years ago by a high school boyfriend who spent hours upon hours training and teaching. The poor guy got some bad teeth moments at the start but then with patience he turned me into his fantasy blow job giving girlfriend.

Kisses,

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