Dear PR,
If you are asking this question then you already know how hard a long distance relationship is to maintain. Communication and trust are the key factors that play into making the relationship last. Not sure if your partner is a state away, across the country, or overseas.
One of my first thoughts is that calling each other every single night and talking until the wee hours will catch up with you fast. Establish date nights or schedule a night where you two hang out on the phone or online together even a couple times a week. You can both watch the same movie together and make popcorn and sit and chat while you watch the movie. Get creative! send fun packages every so often that they can’t open until date night. Create fun questions to ask each other so that the conversation doesn’t become stale. Pick a book that you both buy and you take turns reading out loud to each other. We usually do have very monotonous lives – go to work, eat, come home, sleep – repeat 
So the reason I said to not talk every single day is so that the relationship does not grow old fast. This allows both of you to still maintain your social life and hobbies. Also, for you to pursue new things not new people. You can still text your good mornings, good nights, and i’m thinking about you comments but don’t overdue it.
That leads me into the trust issue. Reality is you are not there and they are not here. So who were they talking to last night when they went to the bar and didn’t come home until 3am? Who went to the movies with them? Who is that new person added on their Myspace friends list? You see them online and not idle, yet they don’t respond to your messages. You sent a text and they didn’t respond. Trust me I hear it and have been there. I did the long distance relationship for a long time and the one big thing that the other person did not have for me was trust. No matter what they said it was usually the cause of most our issues. Think about it this way…the two of you obviously have a connection some how or some way. Sometimes it is through meeting in person and the person now is living across country. Maybe you are dating a soldier. The most common these days though is online love. All of them can work but you have to be patient and trusting. What is the worst thing that is going to happen? You may get your heart broken that is it. (It does heal just in case you were wondering)
You will get a lot of slack from people who don’t support your idea to have a long distance relationship. Most will ask “what is wrong with the people around here?” Your response is nothing…but you can’t control the fact that you made a connection with someone who happens to live elsewhere. Some may say “you are wasting your time.” If you follow my advice of not sitting around on the phone all night and waiting for each other to call then you are not wasting your time. You are living your life and having a successful relationship at the same time. Some may say “what about sex?”
What about sex? You need it we all do. So how are you going to achieve this living apart from each other? No you don’t cheat and yes it’s still considered cheating even when your partner is clear across the state, country, or world. So how do you go about sex? this is where the communication comes into play and the length of the relationship. You can choose to just take care of things by yourself privately with masturbation. You could take your phone conversations to a new level where you include masturbation aka phone sex. Hell I suggest phone sex for relationships that don’t have the long distance. Girls you get a vibrator or a dildo and men you get some lube. No matter your partners sexual orientation, be careful not to cum/orgasm before giving your partner time to get turned on and to climax as well. Of course the first few times may be awkward. You will soon see how HOT it is to hear your partner heavily breathing on the other side of the phone. Tell each other what you are doing to yourself, and pretend that they are the ones doing it to you. This will help tremendously with the sex issue. I personally don’t recommend the web cam to start with. Depending on how long you are going to be apart from each other, you can use the web cam for sex later to spice things up.
Be patient, trusting, and keep expressing your love. We all have daily shit we go through. Make the time with your partner a good time. Also, if you don’t have one buy a web cam and get on a great phone plan or use Google chat and get head sets so you can talk for free. (Skype is another free service online and I think Yahoo may have one also)
Kisses,
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I had a long distance relationship and I trusted her. After over a year we are now together. I went through her computer and found out that she had been e-cheating on me with several men. One of which lasted the longest. I didn’t know it but he was the last one she had to “decide” on before finally picking me. I honestly might have gone along with this had I known, at least it wasn’t a physical relationship however… I did not know. She told me she was so in love with me that she has no tempation to even look at another man. As it turns out, she was indeed looking, and showing herself to them. As it turns out now she made me fall in love with her and sadly, I discovered all of the evidence of her cheating in the past. And now I’m left with finding her virtually in bed with several men. I warn you, there is a reason that the author was not trusted. Women have too many options to cheat. If you knew your long distance lover before the seperation I’d say it greatly increases your chances of being able to make it work. If you met her online and she took her clothes off for you right away and told you how special you are… I’d think twice about what I just told you.