How to get a girl to say yes!

Justin asks:

I have never been in a relationship and everytime i ask a girl out i always get rejected. what should i do to get a yes?

Dear Justin,

Stop feeling sorry for yourself first off.  I don’t know what you are doing that is not working for you.  Are you putting off the desperate vibe? Are you whiny? Do you try to overly please them? Is there any mystery to you? Do you put any effort into yourself? The thing is if you don’t think you are worthy others think the same.  Are you going after girls that are not in the same league as you?

Without knowing specifics you should work on yourself.  Hit the gym and learn something new. Sitting behind the computer and video games does not make you interesting whatsoever.  What else do you have to offer? Do you listen well? if not work on that.  Do get nervous and say the wrong things? I personally do.  So if that is a problem work on talking to people you are not trying to ask out.  Do you have friends that have pointed out reasons for you not getting dates? If so take to heart those reasons. Be yourself but be someone that you’d like to get to know as well.  Do you look in the mirror and like what you see inside and outside? If not work on that.

Who are you asking out is the other problem.  I don’t know how old you are.  So considering you are trying to ask out people within a +/- 3 years dating range who are they? Do they work with you? If so try somewhere where someone won’t have to see you after you are no longer dating.  If the computer is a place of comfort for you try the online dating. Do not let the online relationship build for longer then 3wks to a month before you meet in person. You will only be setting yourself up for disappointment.

You can start small and place an ad on Craigslist in the platonic section for a girl to go out on a non romantic date with you.  Ask in the ad that she give you pointers and to be nice.  This will give you the experience after a few times of talking to a girl that has given specifics on what to try next.

If you believe you are worth someones time then you are!

Kisses,

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