my boyfriend keeps trying to finger my ass

Hi Ann,

You want to know how to stop your man from sticking his fingers in your ass? Obviously you do not enjoy it or you would not be writing me.  Not every girl or guy is a lover of anal play.

Crazy as that sounds to those of you who are pushing the subject of anal sex or objects in the anus against your partners wishes need to back off.  Part of being in a sexual relationship with or without emotional attachment you still need to show respect for the other persons wishes.

Ann you need to tell your man to stop and do so kindly but firmly. Do not use a wishy washy technique to keep from hurting his feelings. He won’t get it if you are toooooooo nice.  If you continue being nice he will keep pushing and hoping to break down your anti-ass play walls.

I’ve had partners push sexual acts on me that I was too young or not ready for at those points in the relationship.  Some acts of sex require a trusting partner.  If you are not at a comfortable place with the act of anal play or you really just don’t enjoy it then SAY so!

If you are fearing having to tell him to stop then you need to think about why you are in that relationship to begin with.  I love anal sex but I don’t love disrespect.

Kisses,

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