My husband wants to have anal sex and we have tried it before and i couldn’t take it…how do i get use to it?

Dear Jami,

Anal sex is not for everyone. I personally love it but that does not mean the rest of the world does. You asked how to like anal sex…I suggest toys

Fingers may cause discomfort as your husbands cock did. There are many toys on the market that can help you enjoy anal sex. I suggest starting slow and moving up the ranks of toys until you can handle penetration in a enjoyable manner. Lube is a key factor.

For starter anal sex toys i’d start with using your vibrator on the outside of the asshole area just to stimulate not penetrate. Oddly what got me into anal sex was a back massager. I’d turn it sideways and it would vibrate on my clit and my asshole. I’d have incredible orgasms. After many years of living my single life with this as a back up to men it finally died…very sad day

To start penetration and get you use to that i’d suggest the beginners anal kit called Bottoms Up kit. It’s perfect for not overwhelming you and your husband can use it while going down on you or while you are in the doggy position.

If you find that you are starting to enjoy the anal play with toys you can make a couple choices. You can try having anal sex with your husband again. The other option is to keep exploring the toys. You can then try the anal beads which are fun. Your husband slowly pushes the beads into your asshole with lube and then slowly pulls them out. This alone can create an orgasm. Again great in the doggy position or if he is eating your out. 69 could be another fun position to try this in as well.

From there i’d add the butt plug to your collection of toys. You can use this to help open your asshole and make it a much smoother transition from vaginal sex to anal sex. You lube up your asshole and insert the butt plug (vibrating if possible). Continue having vaginal sex in all positions and when ready slowly remove the butt plug and have your husband lube up his cock and he can slide nicely into your ass.

Just relax and enjoy yourself and being creative with your sexuality.

Kisses,

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