D Asked:
“Is it possible to genuinely please a woman if I am paralyzed from the waist down? I’ve had emotional and self esteem issues all my life because I was born paralyzed.”
Hi D, Thanks for asking. Yes, it is possible for you to please a women. Not knowing what parts do and don’t work i’m going to guess that you have agile hands or a very wicked tongue. You can get so creative and have great fun with toys to please a special lady in your life. You can use a thigh strap on dildo, she can sit on your face while you eat her pussy, you can finger her, you can suck her tits and fuck her with a dildo or vibrator. There are a lot of options in regards to making her moan and cum all over your face and hands.
In regards to the emotional aspect that your condition of being paralyzed has caused, I would say it’s time to take in a huge deep breath and realize that you got dealt a shitty card in this lifetime. That being said realize you are worth everyone’s time just as much as any other Joe Schmo out there. It will take a special lady for you to meet and please in all the ways you imagine. I will be honest and not pussy foot around that fact that we all live in a selfish superficial society no matter what we want to convince ourselves of. We all think we are better then the person next to us and have a better heart or don’t judge like that other person but we all do in some form. I know I sound like a downer but the reality is that the prince in Sleeping Beuty or Beauty and the Beast or even in Shrek all had to go through hell to find and keep their princess. There are millions of women and men out there with some sort of physical or mental handicap that keeps them from finding that “Happy Ever Ending”.
Sorry if I sound like an asshole. I’d rather be able to face you and know that I gave real advice from my heart and not what society was hoping I’d say to you. Because I checked out your internet social profiles I do know what you look like and I do know that you are not some gross or awful looking guy. I don’t know what you have or have not tried out there to meet women or whom you are meeting if any at all. Hopefully my advice won’t be a repeat of what others have said before.
The question that keeps coming into my mind is what are you looking for? Besides a pussy to fuck, finger, or lick what kind of body,face,ethnicity, or personality is attached to that pussy? Or do looks not matter?
There are some great sites for meeting others with disabilities or people who just don’t care that you are in a wheel chair and actually want to know you for who you are. Lovebyrd and Disaboom are two great sites to check out. So you may be thinking “what if I meet someone clear across the country?” I say go for it! There are plenty of travel options and if there is a will there is a way. I say this because I have flown multiple times across the US using a wheelchair. I was in a wheelchair from Mexico to Texas to Vegas to San Francisco and yes it’s difficult but totally doable.
I do know for a fact that there are some incredible girls out there that you can find on Escort sites like Eros and Cityvibe that are very open minded to clients who have disabilities. Just be honest and they can make all your sexual dreams come true. I’m sure there are many beliefs that using an Escort is immoral or not appropriate advice but I say “Bull Shit”. If you can explore your sexual fantasies and find companionship in any way that makes life a more worthwhile experience go for it.
I’d love to know how your dating life goes so please update me if you meet a chick or get some action.
Kisses,
Here are some other links if those previous ones turn out to be lame:
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Twitter
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Myspace
Digg
Youtube
Flickr
Great site been reading and will add your site to mine.
You know, the issues surrounding disability/ability and sexuality are important to discuss, yet you never see it around. It really is something that should be discussed more often and in more depth. Because then we might actually be able to move past alot of the stereotypes that exist in our culture. It would make things quite a bit easier for everyone in the disabled community, that’s for sure!
I say these things as a 30-something disabled guy. To be specific, I’m a quadriplegic, meaning that I have a spinal cord injury caused by an accident that damaged it. I’ve been injured for about 14 years now, and was fortunate enough to have been able to have sex before and after the injury occurred.
Now one misconception that many people have about people with disabilities is that they just plain can’t have sex. That’s complete bull shit, and I’m glad you pointed this out in your article above! That was extremely refreshing. Like in my case, I don’t have complete feeling in most of my body… pretty much starts to go at about my mid section, right above my belly. However, Viagra and other drugs like it do work, making up for the fact that my body doesn’t react in the same manner it would in a person with a well functioning spinal cord. That’s life, but I’ve made it work because not only do I deserve to enjoy some sort of sexual contact, it’s still worth the effort to do in order to satisfy mine and my partner’s urges and needs for physical expression.
Basically it all comes down to getting over stereotypes and cultural taboos. And getting over yourself. That’s the hardest part, getting over your own view of “I’m disabled so I’m broken and no one will want me”. It’s a hard thing to get over, but unless you do, you will never get anywhere.
Anyway, these are just a few of my thoughts on the subject. I should probably do my own blog post on it, but I can never find real life CFNM videos and pictures depicting disabled people! That’s the hardest stuff to find of all!
Kudos for providing some insight and information for those looking to learn more about the complex world of sexuality and disability.
That is that most amazing post…I’m glad someone reads what I write
To the point and an excellent article.
Very informative post! Normally I don’t comment on blogs but this post deserves it