Dear Haywood U. Blome,
Anal sex is a tougher one with girls sometimes. So many believe it to be dirty and naughty.
The reality of it is she has to be totally comfortable with you. If it’s her first time be very gentle and take your time. For her to enjoy it she needs a good amount of lube and to feel relaxed.
A lot of girls don’t realize how much you guys get off just looking at our asshole knowing you could put your penis or a finger or a tongue in there. The other thing that most girls don’t know is that they can orgasm incredibly with anal sex. That would be my selling point.
Bringing up the subject of anal sex can take place in the bedroom. A good time is after you’ve had sex. Ask if she has ever tried it. If her answer is yes, ask if she enjoyed it. If her answer is no, calmly tell her you’d like to try it. If she expresses concern of safety tell her you can use a condom (which I suggest either way). If she is concerned about the dirty part of getting poop on your penis the reality is that there is very little feces that gets on your penis. If she is concerned that it will hurt explain that usually the reason why people say it hurts is because they are too forceful and don’t use enough lubrication. Explain that you will take your time and be cautious. Explain that it gets better by the second or third time also. The first time most girls are too nervous to really enjoy themselves.
Maybe start with working a finger into her anus while you are going down on her or while in the doggy position. Again using lube for her comfort. Some use spit and I personally don’t suggest that for infection reasons mostly. Get her a little more use to the idea of something in her ass. That will help when you finally make the transition to anal sex.
I know that some people clean out their rectum before anal. I can tell you that I have never had a forewarning that I was going to be having anal that night. So that being said being freshly showered usually gives me comfort. In my experience of anal sex i have had incredible partners and some real jerks. The jerks were the guys who assumed they had enough lube and just rammed their dick in my ass.
You can start her with two different positions that are both comfy. One is doggy style anal (K9 Anal – her on all fours). The other which is my favorite but a little tougher sometimes to get the positioning correct is missionary anal (her on her back with a pillow or two under her bottom to bring the anus up higher). In both positions she can stimulate her own clit and reach a fantastic orgasm. There are lots of other positions to try but those are the ones I would suggest for getting started. Be safe!
Kisses,
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well i love everything anal!
thanks to my amazing boyfriend.
but it all started when he was going down on me and he always puts a few fingers in my pussy while he licks my clit and one day he asked me if i loved him and trusted him and of course i said yes at this point i had a pillow over my face to keep from screaming so i could see him at the time but then he asked me if he could try something that he thought i would like so i said yes and relaxed and waiting to see what he waited to do to me..
he stopped finger fucking me for a sec and lubed up all his fingers with spit (i like spit for the fingers the best) started licking my clit and put 2 fingers back in my pussy and and as i was really getting back into in i felt is finger touch my asshole and he just rubed the outside for a few seconds then slide him finger inside my asshole and after a few minutes i took total control on rubbing my clit and i let him finger fuck my pussy and my asshole for a very long time.
the feeling was for sure one of a kind.
well that the first time i ever got off that hard and that many times in a single night.
that was 3 years ago and im sure you can imagine how more freakier we have gotten since then.
we have had complete anal sex many times and its great we like the toys alot.
but mostly my favorite when i get on all fours and he will lube everything up and start playing soft and slowly with a finger or two then he’ll just keeps playing in my ass for hours or until i cant take it anymore. and its wonderful and it happens very very often now =]
i still like normal sex and foreplay (in my pussy) but no matter what we make alot time for anal (mostly forplay) the anal sex isnt but maybe once or twice a month for now but i have a feeling its going to because 2 or 3 times in a month. =]]
damn im a lucky girl.
who loves everything anal and a bf that loves anal also.
my advice..
just cause you didnt enjoy it the 1st time dont give up.
try it a few times before you make up your mind forever.
and its alor easier to open up to the idea of having a finger stick up your ass, if he likes to eat you out ask him to do it then
but dont do anything bigger than a finger and only let him use 1 finger and a whole lot of LUBE.
I’ve tried anal and didn’t enjoy it. I read the part where you said there are some guys that are jerks. I guess that was who I encountered during my experience. My boyfriend pressures me all the time about it but I just don’t want a repeat of my first experience.